11 Peculiar Reasons Why People Don't Like You (and 1 reason not to care) (2022)

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If you’re anything like me, or like I was, it kinda really bothers you when you find out people don’t like you. You’re fairly certain you’re a nice person with a good heart. You feel you are likable enough. So what gives? Why don’t people like you?

Why people don’t like you

I use to have a really hard time with this, I’ll be honest.

It used to hurt my feelings. An awful lot. And then I would spend, er I mean, waste time trying to figure out why they don’t like me and how I could possibly fix that.

I’m one of those people who needs attention and validation. Wait, I used to be one of those people. I needed people to like me all the time. Call me a people pleaser if you will.

I talked about this, being a people pleaser, over on my YouTube channel just the other day. You might like this video.

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When someone doesn’t like you for no reason

Well, you think there’s no reason but really there is. You know you’ve done nothing wrong to a person. You didn’t step out of line and you weren’t rude or obnoxious. At least you didn’t think so.

But the fact of the matter is, it’s kinda frustrating amirite? Like you can’t help thinking to yourself ‘well what did I ever do to you’? If you’re like me, you’ll go over things in your head to see if you maybe you said or did something wrong.

Did I offend someone? Did I trigger someone? Did I hurt someone’s feelings? What the hell happened?

You have to understand one very important thing. Though we think someone doesn’t like us for no reason, there actually is a reason. Quite possibly several. I’m gonna share 11 reasons with you in this article.

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11 Peculiar Reasons Why People Don’t Like You

There’s a great Rumi quote that goes something like this:

“What you see in me is a reflection of you”

That’s a pretty powerful statement. Oddly enough, it offends so many people, and yes even yours truly. What do you mean I’m a reflection of you? That can’t be.

Well ya, it can be. We just don’t see it. We only see what we want to see. Not only that, many of us haven’t healed from our past traumas so we can be triggers for others. That actually happens to me a lot and I thought I was healed.

Nope. Apparently I’m not.

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Which brings us to reason #1 why people don’t like you

1 You trigger something in them

It could be a memory of an ex girlfriend/boyfriend or maybe you even look like a family member they don’t get along with anymore. Every time they see you, it brings back memories and not good ones.

You see how this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. There isn’t anything you can do to change this until they heal from their trauma.

It’s completely out of your hands and you’ll just have to accept the fact that you are a trigger.

2 They’re jealous of you

This one is kinda sad actually. I also used to be that person who was jealous of anyone who was prettier, smarter, more popular, richer, you name it, I was jealous.

Jealousy is very ugly.

Some of the reasons people may be jealous of you may even surprise you. I know some people are jealous of me because they think I’m so brave and ballsy. I’m not really. I’m just determined and willing to try new things.

3 You intimidate them

Oy. I get this a lot. People are honestly secretly intimidated by you if you are successful or confident. So many of us have no self confidence and when they see a person who oozes in self confidence, it intimidates them.

They sometimes mistake confidence for cockiness, unfortunately and they will think you are too big for your britches. Just keep on shining. They’ll figure it out eventually and find their own self confidence one day.

Or not. It’s not your problem.

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4 You’re too damn happy

Sheesh. Do you have to be so happy all the time? Seriously!

Someone once told me I was phony. “No one can be that happy all the time”. Says who? You? Yes I can be this happy all the time and if I’m ever not happy or sad, I just stay home. Period.

They think you’re faking it. They are also jealous (there’s that word again) that your life is so wonderful that it makes you so happy. They hate that. They hate you for it.

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Let it go. Again. Not your problem.

5 You’re too outspoken

Stop being so vocal already will ya? You got a voice and you know how to use it. You don’t put up with anyone’s crap. Ever.

Many people don’t really like this, especially bullies and narcissists. How dare you talk back to them? Some people just want us to be ‘yes’ people and when we aren’t, oy, feathers get ruffled.

Keep using your voice and stand up for what you believe in. No matter what it is.

6 You’re so negative

I gotta tell you, I used to be Negative Nancy all the time. My whole life was a disaster and I would whine and complain about it to anyone who would listen. I’m not sure how I still have these friends to this day.

Nowadays, if you are whining and complaining I’ll either help you try to find something positive in your situation or if that doesn’t work, I’ll just walk away.

No one wants to hear it Felicia. Can you just try to be grateful for what you have?

7 Your voice is annoying

Ya sorry. You ever run into some people whose voice is irritating af? I did recently and decided that I simply can’t be around this person. A trigger? Honestly I’m not sure but I just can’t handle listening to this person talk. I know pathetic, right? But I’m being honest here.

Some of us just have those voices.

And the sad part about that is there is nothing you can do about it. It’s just you. Don’t worry though. There are others who may absolutely love your voice. Go be with them instead.

8 You’re so clingy

Like in my personal space kinda clingy. There is thing called ‘personal space’. I believe it’s two feet in either direction of our bodies. We only let a small handful of people into this space.

Clearly you may not be one of them.

It makes us extremely uncomfortable when people get into our personal space. We almost feel violated. If you happen to be one of these clingy type people, maybe try and stand back a foot. It might help.

9 You’re constantly interrupting conversations

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Ughhhhh!! I have to tell you, this is probably one of the most annoying things to me ever. When someone doesn’t let you talk or finish a story because they are constantly interrupting with a story of their own. Trying to outshine you, if you will.

I used to be one of those people until I ran into people like that and was disgusted with myself. I’ve since learned to let people finish their story.

Now when someone interrupts me I ask them to please let me finish my story first. It’s very effective. It goes back to that whole find and use your voice thing. It works.

Let people finish their stories please. You will have your turn to talk.

10 You’re too successful

Shame on you for reaching and smashing your goals. Oy.

But honestly, success can seriously put some people off. They secretly loathe you because of your success. So many of us have dreams but are too scared to do anything to actually realize them. Clearly you aren’t scared and you succeeded.

People don’t like that. They want you to stay in the scared box with them.

11 You’re self absorbed

It’s always about you. What you did, how high you jumped, how big your house is, how new your car is, how great your husband/wife is. You get the point.

You are constantly trying to show off everything in your life and make it sound like it’s all so amazing and how great everything is. But, you never ask anyone how they are doing or you show no interest in anyone else.

It’s always about you and only you.

It’s boring Susan and so are you. Can you step down off your pedestal for one minute and connect with the world around you and the people in it?

No one wants to be around someone who just talks about themselves all the time. I sure don’t.

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Some other signs of why people don’t like you

So those were only 11 signs people don’t like you but I guarantee there are a million more. It could be your body odor, the amount of cologne you were or maybe that you gossip about or judge people.

It also could be the way you dress or the tattoos you have or your hair. Oh ya. People have some peculiar reasons not to like you.

And you will know without a doubt if someone doesn’t like you. They will either walk away when they see you coming or just ignore you if you are in a group of people.

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What do you do?

Nothing. Just accept it as it is. You aren’t a jar of Nutella, not everyone is going to love you. I get that it’s frustrating, annoying or even hurtful when people don’t like you. Sometimes it can actually be kinda confusing too!

But remember, most of the reasons why people don’t like you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. It’s not up to you to change so people will like you.

Unless some of your traits are quite toxic and negative and changing would be a very good thing. You should look into that. I did.

How to not care if people like you or not!

I struggled with this a lot. It used to make me so sad that some people didn’t like me. Today? Meh. I could not care less to be honest.

When you keep in mind that them not liking you has nothing to do with you it really makes it that much easier to deal with. You have to remind yourself that you are awesome just the way you are (unless you’re not and you’re toxic then you need to look into changing that).

When you care how people feel about you, you are giving them your power. They are now controlling your life and you don’t even realize it. This is your life.

Take back your power and stop caring what people think of you or if they like you or not. YOU like YOU. That’s all that matters.

Why people don’t like you has nothing to do with you

It took me a long time to realize this. I was one of those people who would bend over backwards to get someone to like me, be my friend, give me attention, accept and appreciate me.

It took me a long time also to love myself enough not to care.

Why people don’t like you has everything to do with them. We are triggers to people’s emotions and traumas. We are threatening to people who want to stay weak and in their shell.

We are too happy for people who can’t find happiness.

You keep being you. It doesn’t matter who likes you or not. What’s most important is that you like yourself and your friends and family like you. If there’s something in you that you don’t like, it’s up to you to change it.

But don’t change so people will like you. Change because you know you need to. So you can be happy. Not for any other reason, ever.

And then when you are finally happy and at peace with your life, the right people will gravitate towards you. It’s a beautiful thing.

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If you take these 12 tips to heart, you'll be able to successfully deal with a person you disdain.
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  3. Practice Civility. ...
  4. Sidestep When Possible. ...
  5. Fake It Till You Make It. ...
  6. Be Mindful Of Your Emotions. ...
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Why do people hate me so much? ›

People can hate others for many reasons, jealousy is the usual cause of most hate from individuals and or groups in most cases. Others just crave the attention from others, and because they are unhappy with something in there own life and putting others down somehow makes them feel better which is never ok.

How do you tell if someone is pretending to like you? ›

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Why do I dislike people? ›

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  4. They're Always Negative. ...
  5. They Try To Bring You Down. ...
  6. They Refuse To Celebrate You. ...
  7. They Need To Upstage You. ...
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Someone who is friendless has no friends.

How do you tell if someone is using you? ›

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  3. You always have to come to their rescue. ...
  4. They never say thank you. ...
  5. They're always asking for favors. ...
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  7. Your emotional needs are never considered, let alone met.
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  6. Talk to someone. ...
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Why are people so mean? ›

Key points. Research shows that being insulted makes people more likely to demean others. Freud argued that people cope with negative views of themselves by perceiving other people as having those same traits. Researchers have discovered that threatened self-esteem drives a lot of aggression.

How do you spot a low key hater? ›

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How do you protect yourself from jealous people? ›

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Whenever you both meet, if it always ends with sex, it might be a sign that he is using you. If he is making time only to sleep with you, he might be interested in physical intimacy rather than a committed relationship. If you both meet and he just wants to jump your bones and then leave, he is using you for sex.

What makes someone popular? ›

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What does it mean when you hate everyone? ›

Frequently experiencing anger, frustration, or discomfort can make you feel like you hate everyone. These emotions can take a toll on your mental and physical health, and make life a lot less enjoyable for you. Practicing empathy can help you change your mindset and make things more pleasant for you.

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How do you trick a guy into liking you? ›

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  3. Touch him often. ...
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  6. Look into his eyes. ...
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  7. Expect good things from him. ...
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How can I become popular fast? ›

To be popular fast, make plans with people regularly and accept invitations to social events when you get them, which will help you make new friends. When you're hanging out with people, remember to smile, make eye contact, and be energetic so you seem approachable and likable.

How can I be popular with girls? ›

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Why do people hate me so much? ›

People can hate others for many reasons, jealousy is the usual cause of most hate from individuals and or groups in most cases. Others just crave the attention from others, and because they are unhappy with something in there own life and putting others down somehow makes them feel better which is never ok.

How do you make a hater mad? ›

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What do you call a person who hates everyone? ›

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Why don’t people like you?. Which brings us to reason #1 why people don’t like you. Some people just want us to be ‘yes’ people and when we aren’t, oy, feathers get ruffled.. I used to be one of those people until I ran into people like that and was disgusted with myself.. People don’t like that.. But remember, most of the reasons why people don’t like you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.. It’s not up to you to change so people will like you.. Why people don’t like you has everything to do with them.. But don’t change so people will like you.

However, if you’ve identified that a number of people seem to dislike you *and in tellingly similar ways*, then it may be time to do a little self-assessment on your interaction skills.. The first 10 tips point you in the direction of looking to yourself for why people may dislike you, and the second 10 tips describe situations where it may be the other person’s issue that they dislike you, placing the blame in their court.. People might start to like you more again.. These people bring nothing to the conversation, which consequently persuades people to dislike them.. Reasons people don’t like you – not your problem. You have them and some people don’t like that.

If so, I think you’ll work out for yourself what you need to do.. Of course, there are always times when transport issues or other unavoidable problems make us late.. Just remember that other people’s time is valuable, too, and don’t make a habit of it!. You have an opinion on everyone else’s life, and they don’t have a choice whether they want to hear it.. And you wonder why people don’t like you or consider you a close friend.. It’s no surprise that people don’t like you.. Snobs make other people feel bad.. Still not sure why people don’t like you?

We all want to heal the world and make it a better place.. However, before you begin to attempt launching on the world stage and getting involved in the lives of family, friends, and, in a few cases, people you do not even know, put a spotlight on yourself.. You bend over backwards for other people all the time, and yes, they may like all you do for them.. ⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄Change your negativity; control your emotions and your feelings.. When you appreciate yourself, you do not go out of your way unnecessarily and people start to like the real you.. ⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄Have you noticed that people who self-sacrifice the most always get the short end of the stick when they do decide to do something for themselves and go out and play?. You have been taught that it is selfish to think about you.. Now, let us examine what emotional needs really are.. People treat us in the way we demand to be treated.. ⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄⌄ Scroll down to continue reading article ⌄ Do this exercise: picture yourself in a happy personal or business relationship.. Would they linger around you all the time or give you your own space?. Write down in detail what the perfect relationship would entail.. If you are too focused on everybody else, what can you do for your own life?. If you take a step back and get to you know yourself, meeting your own needs will make you happy.

Other people, unfortunately, are not -- and that might include you.. If you find yourself trying hard to control other people, you've decided that you, your goals, your dreams, or even just your opinions are more important than theirs.. People make mistakes.. Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others isn't masochistic; it's empowering, because then you focus on doing things better or smarter next time.. People may like your things, but that doesn't mean they like you.. Genuine relationships make you happier, and you'll form genuine relationships only when you stop trying to impress and start trying to just be yourself.. Holding on to what you think you need won't make you happier; letting go so you can reach for and try to earn what you want will.. When you interrupt someone, what you're really saying is, "I'm not listening to you so I can understand what you're saying; I'm listening to you so I can decide what I want to say.". Whining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better.. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding.. Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right.. If you want to start a business, take the first step.. Today is the most precious asset you own-and is the one thing you should truly fear wasting.

You may default to disliking people because you have had to deal with very unlikable people in your past.. Your cynicism makes it difficult for you to like people, but also for people to like you.. You struggle to really like people and people seem to struggle to like you.. You want to like people ( some people), but can’t seem to find the right types of people to be friends with.. Rather than admit this to yourself and others, you hide your true feelings by saying, “It’s okay, I don’t really like people anyway.”. But you can shift your thoughts and beliefs enough to move from “I don’t like people” to “I don’t like many people.”

I had a job doing something that I loved, something that helped people.. I was good at the practical parts but total bollocks at the parts where money and minutia were concerned.. I could recruit people, take care of them, and hold a vision for what would help the most people in the most efficient way possible.. Until that point, I legitimately believed that I could mold and morph into a person who was somehow universally loved and accepted.. I didn’t realize I was a polarizing person until my late 20s.. I was speaking to a coworker on a long car ride, and he filled me in on some business drama that was going on.. People either love you, or they just can’t stand you.. (And I was really hoping that I wasn’t fooling myself into believing that I could never be a Screech.). In the last decade since I realized I’m a Jessie Spano, I have learned to listen closely to my people and thank them when they raise their concerns or frustrations with me.. I am an opinionated person, which can quickly translate into being a polarizing person.. It doesn’t change my love for them, or my ability to hold opposing beliefs without opposing them as humans.. When I start to sense that, I will refer to my first point and make a conscious move to detach from their feelings about me, considering what I might have done to offend when appropriate.. I root for the Jessie Spanos and Screeches of this world because everyone needs to be seen and loved just as they are.

Nosiness is a problem that needs to be stopped.. When I was in college, there was this girl that I really wanted to be friends with.. Most people who are nosy are also gossips, in my experience.. Once you start prying into someone's life, you may start feeling like it's your right to know what's happening in their lives.. When they don't, we get offended.. It's not that people's problems aren't important- they are.. But when I am nosy, I tend to start wondering "What's going on?. Why didn't they tell me about it?. Maybe they don't like me and don't trust me with their secrets".. They may be struggling with something really big, yet here I am worrying about why they didn't confide in me.. Instead, they are selfish.After I wrote my friend from college on Facebook trying to pry into her life, I felt so worried about what she thought of me.. Caring about people is a good thing, and genuinely checking on them and making sure they are okay is different than nosiness.. We should be checking in on people and showing them we care.

Plenty of times, I’ve let things spill out much worse than I’ve wanted it to sound, and that’s the last thing I want to do.. I swear, if I could count the number of times I’ve been told to smile in the workplace (even when I was totally fine), I’d lose count.. It was an uncomfortable time, and I truly believe I was targeted because I was one of the few (few meaning only two others… and they were immediately fired or never hired on permanently) that stood up and didn’t comply to his ridiculous demands and criticism.. Instead of trying to change my personality and tweaking it for everyone else’s liking, I’ve embraced my personality as a whole.. And I am so much happier with the feeling of not sacrificing my personal thoughts and feelings, just so I can come across as complacent.. But if you’re making a confident choice that makes you happy, their approval isn’t necessary.

Stop caring what others think and do what makes you happy.. Don’t let the “what ifs” prevent you from being you.. When I stopped making choices based on what people expected of me, I get to be myself.. Though you don’t feel pressure to follow what the people around is doing, you did it because you worry.. I stopped because I was afraid of being called crazy again.. You can make the choices you want no matter what anyone thinks.. If you try to be what they expected or wanted and they still don’t like you, they still won’t like you when you are not.. It turns out, it didn’t really matter what I said.. Now you are free from worries because you are not held back by having to change yourself to fit someone else.. Don’t change yourself so people will like you, be yourself so the right people will love you.. In fact, it means that you can care about the right people instead of the wrong people.. Leave them be so you could spend more of your time with the people who matter.


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